Those Waves of Emotions – lets talk about loneliness…
Loneliness is such a real, raw and even reckless emotion and we have ALL felt the bitterness of this intense feeling. Yet, we have never been more connected with all of our technology devices and the ability to access anything the very instant that we want it. Just the other day while at home I facetimed my mom who also lives in Canmore to ask about making pastry. She was able to guide me through a few steps while watching my every move. How cool and awesome is that? and yet there are days where I can feel so lonely. I’m not alone in this feeling, so many of us live with such desperation and feelings of loneliness. Now with our new circumstances loneliness is on the rise more now then it has ever been. There are less distractions like work, friends, family to keep us busy. Isolation, physical and social distancing, staying at home, being fearful and leary of others. Did someone sneeze? cough? ‘did that person just touch every mango possible’? ‘GROSS’ – stay home, isolate,’ I can’t get the virus’. Isolate, Isolate, Isolate.
Loneliness is a gateway for something radical, an opportunity for a shift or a change in something internal. Sometimes we need to get to a critical point (Covid-19) in our lives before we can even see that one of the most raw emotions might be an opportunity for something very different. Often, a crisis in our lives helps us look at things in a different light. Loneliness is no different. Loneliness is often brushed away, we put a distraction in front of ourselves when loneliness rears its ugly head. Distractions like Facebook, Instagram, Netflix, cleaning, eating, buying, drinking, drugs, vacations.
When was the last time you sat uncomfortably with loneliness, allowed the intense feelings to move through you, shook them up and let them out? When have you allowed yourself the opportunity to feel the full raw emotions of this most uncomfortable feeling letting it pass through you like the messy, painful, powerful emotion that it is. We need to let these intense feelings take over, shake, rattle and roll though us like a tornado in order to find that on the other side there is more to see, a light that is healing, an opportunity that we weren’t able to see or feel before. Self care is allowing for all of our messy, intense, powerful, raw, wicked emotions to roll though us. Now more than ever!
Humans need humans to feel, connect with, and feel alive. When we are stripped of this connection physically (distancing), emotionally (can’t hug or touch), Spiritually (such as massage). There may be more of something on the other side that is the shift and change that you have been looking and waiting for. Allow. Then take good care of yourself. Walk, drink a warm cuppa, connect with someone, read, journal, stand in the sun. You are worth every emotion you have, even the most challenging ones. When you give yourself the permission to feel it in its most uncomfortable form your body makes a shift and with that shift comes a change and an opportunity. You may even become more than you were before. Be gentle with yourself.
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